No one wants their partners to be emotionally and physically exhausted, irritable, withdrawn from social life and enjoyment, have a loss of appetite, feel insomnia and be almost sick. But indirectly throughout the year you may contribute to all these symptoms in your partners. And this happens due to your negligence towards your own health and bad lifestyle. Your illness may be for a few days or prolonged but it affects your partner’s health too due to constant caring. Your partner loves you so neglects his or her own needs to take care of you.
As Joyce Meyer puts, “I believe that the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you”. According to World Health Organization health is ‘a complete state of physical, mental and social well being and not merely absence of disease.’ A study reveals that the caregiver partners are 6 times more likely to be depressed than others who have healthy partners. So gift your partner a healthy you this year. Exercise at least 20 minutes daily for it releases endorphin that helps feeling happy and boosts mood, increases brain productivity, relieves stress, improves sleep and helps tackle mood swings. Eat a balanced diet to stay away from sickness and maintain the youth in you. Try to quit addiction if any. Spend some time in focused thoughts so that the person in you grows and takes the relationship to new heights. For if you are not healthy and suffering physically, emotionally or mentally then you cannot maintain a smooth relationship. This will affect your partner in many ways.
YOU WILL NOT CONTRIBUTE IN HOUSE HOLD WORK
A family runs smoothly when both the partners equally contribute towards the household chores. But if the burden of all work be it cooking, cleaning, shopping, parenting falls on one partner along with taking care of the sick partner then it will create stress in the formers life. The more responsibility one of you needs to take the greater the imbalance. You become dependent for the smallest needs on your partner.
YOU WILL IGNORE YOUR PARTNERS NEED
If your mind will always be occupied in your pain then you will have no desire to care for your partners need. You may want to be with yourself all the time so will not spend time with your partner building your relationship. This will make your partner feel neglected and sad. Your mood will be spoilt for physical health and psychological health are linked to each other.
YOU WILL MAKE YOUR PARTNER SICK
Your partner loves you and will leave no stone unturned to make you feel comfortable when you are sick and help you with better recovery. But this can create stress in your partner. Right from insuring peaceful rest, no disturbance even by the kids, correct diet and timely medication your partner will be left with no time and energy to take care of him or herself. Any type of sickness brings a drastic change in lifestyle and your partner may find it difficult to adjust.
YOU WILL NOT PARTICIPATE IN FUN ACTIVITIES TOGETHER
Vijay had planned the Singapore tour with his wife months back and was very excited for the same. His wife was a diabetic and negligent towards her health. Despite Vijay’s constant reminder she did not pay heed to the precautions needed. Few days before the trip her sugar levels rose and she had to be hospitalized. Vijay cancelled the tour. When you have low energy, headache, upset stomach, aches, pains, infections, insomnia, loss of interest in physical relationship then it will leave no space for laughter and enjoyment in life.
YOU WILL NOT SOCIALIZE
You were watching a midnight movie and could not complete your sleep. This triggered severe migraine next day and it was the last day of the year. Now not only you but your partner too will not be able to attend that much awaited yearly bash along with friends. No one feels like socializing with bad health instead you feel like avoiding all and rest. But this can affect your partners need to socialize. And if only one partner has to socialize then he or she may feel left out.
YOU WILL QUARREL WITH YOUR PARTNER
It may happen that you are resentful with the way you are cared by your partner for your expectations are very high even though your partner may be trying his or her best. When body hurts you behave irritably, arrogantly and unreasonably which can lead to conflicts with your partner. ‘To keep the body in good health is a duty otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear’ – Buddha.