Fights are an inseparable part of any relationship, it’s something all couples do. There’s always one person who is more dominating over the other. Being in a relationship is one beautiful feeling, agreed but at times we get to see the uglier side of it. We can surely not make a relation 100% toxic free, but can try and lessen the irregularities.
We have 9 ways which can help you in getting rid of constant fighting in your relationship.
- DON’T BRING UP THE PAST
Repeatedly talking about each other’s past will only mean digging out unnecessary problems. You need to understand that what is done, is done. There’s no use of fighting over things that have already taken place in the past.
- DON’T SAY SOMETHING THAT YOU WILL REGRET LATER
Usually when couples fight they tend to scream at each other, spilling out things they wouldn’t have if they weren’t annoyed. It’s better if you just leave the room or quit the conversation and return when you have calmed down. It will be more productive than simply yelling at each other and regretting things later.
- WORK ON YOURSELF
You gotta give up on the blame game and stop blaming your partner for everything. He/she probably can’t be at fault during every single fight! If there’s something about you that’s bothering them, work on fixing it. You both have to try.
- BAN THE ‘BUT’
“but if you do this” ; “ but if that happens”
Eliminate the ‘but’ from your vocabulary when you are in a fight and you will be better off! Just curb your tongue a little!
- TACKLE ONE PROBLEM AT A TIME
Always try and discuss about one problem at a time. You are not a superhero, you have your limits. Mixing up a number of reasons during a fight is a complete disaster!
- LOOK AT YOUR OLD PICTURES WITH HIM/HER
Looking at old pictures of the both of you will ignite an emotional spark and help you think of the lovable times that you spent together. It is one of the easiest stimulants that you can get to stop fighting. So when you have some spare time, pull on those comfortable pj’s, get yourself a nice hot cappuccino, play romantic music and just lay on your bed as you flip through your precious memories.
- IN A BAD MOOD? BACK OFF!
Step back from the fight if you are in a bad mood or if there’s something that’s mentally bothering you. Avoid conversations by saying something like “I think we should not talk right now, I am not in that state of mind”. By backing off at the right moment, you may very well have avoided a fight that could have been the straw that broke the camel’s back.
- BE OPEN TO WHAT THE OTHER HAS TO SAY
It’s easy to be stubborn, it’s more difficult to admit that you could be wrong or at fault. Pay attention to what the other person is saying and you might realize that it was your mistake.
- TAKE A SECOND TO DETERMINE IT ITS REALLY WORTH IT
While you’re giving yourself a breather, really think about whether this issue is worth fighting over. Is this something that has been making you angry or upset for a while?
Is this something that genuinely hurts your feelings? If the answer to all of those things is yes, then this is an important issue worth fighting about. But if it’s something superficial or silly, reconsider your stance.