Suhani is an attractive 23-years-old girl working in a call-centre. She has a fair complexion and pretty face, but she is not happy with her figure and keeps brooding over this matter. As a result she has lost her glow and the beautiful smile also. She is overweight and because she is short she thinks that she looks ugly. She is desperately trying to lose wait so that she can wear the latest labels and look stylish, which she thinks will make her feel better about herself.
Suhani could be driven by societal and fashionable trends to dress and look a certain way. But the fact is, true style statement stem not from totally changing your body shape but from optimising it, not from rejecting your body shape but from accepting it, and not from disapproving your body shape, but respecting it.
Experts feel that often the teenagers who are overly concerned about how they look and how people perceive them, suffer from low self-esteem. This is true that we all aspire to have mirror-cracking looks, but it is equally important to accept one’s flaws. There is constant increase in number of those youngsters who are obsessed with their bodies. Hounded by public images of film stars, models and celebrities flaunting their perfect figure, they are getting even more desperate about their appearance.
“Once you ceased to care about the way you look, life will become more interesting and manageable. Then you start enjoying everything that makes life good. You should accept the way you are. If that bothers other people, then that’s their problem, not yours. You feel good and that shows in the way you walk, talk and project yourself. As long as you are happy with the way you are, you should not bother about what people think about you, suggests psychologist Dr Vinita Sinha.
It’s normal to be different
Teens are unhappy with the way they look and don’t want to accept their flaws openheartedly because from the time they’re born until their teen years, teenagers have been taught that there is a norm; there is a guideline to compare oneself to, when, realistically, there’s not. In true terms contrast and oddity make up real life, and until we accept that, no teen is going to be happy with her looks because she’ll never realise that it’s normal to be different.
Maybe, this unhappiness goes back to the fact that even Disney movies such as ‘Cinderella’ and ‘Sleeping Beauty’ lead us to believe that girls are to be beautiful princesses and guys are to be handsome princes. What is normal? The actuality is that it doesn’t exist because the world is not a Utopian society in which every human being is the same.
It is the age when teenagers whether male or female, want the ‘right look’ and they want to have a feeling with belonging. They feel like garbage when they don’t belong, and therefore, are pressured to fit in and have ‘cool’ appearances. In reality, most teenagers have something wrong with them. They are too fat or too thin, they wear glasses, or they have acne, they have braces, or they are too short. Nobody is perfect. Teens need to accept this and move on in life and not worry about their image. There’s no rule saying professionals must be attractive to do well in their respective occupations.
Don’t try to impress others
There are many factors that contribute to why our generation has such a bad body image. Thanks to publicised eating disorders, plastic surgery cases and miracle creams, teenagers know it’s possible to fix their small flaws, which make their little imperfections, seem huge in their eyes. When teenagers look in magazines and see girls of their age having perfectly clear skin, a thin bone structure and perfect teeth, they start thinking if they don’t look that way; there is something wrong with them.
Fact is that everyone is different in his or her own unique way. If teens are healthy and feel good on the inside, they may start to like themselves on the outside as well. If they have low self-esteem and all they do is say negative things about themselves, then they will always see things from a bad point of view. Don’t change yourself because you don’t need to do things you don’t want to in order to impress people whom you want to hang out with.
Your confidence is your style
Some people think they need to change how they look or act to feel good about themselves. But actually all you need to do is change the way you see your body and how you think about yourself. The first thing to do is recognise that your body is your own, no matter what shape, size, or colour it comes in. Next, identify which aspects of your appearance you can realistically change and which you can’t. If there are things about yourself that you want to change and can, do this by making goals for yourself.
Your concept of the perfect body emerges from your beliefs, values, and goals. Confidence and accepting your capabilities is a subtle concept to define oneself, but very expressive and effortless. Lack of confidence reflects in the way you carry yourself, and does not bother how smart or stylish your clothes are, or how great your body shape is. The more satisfied you are with your body, the better your image, and the more your confidence and style.
Remember your body will respond to you better the more you nurture it and treat it with respect. Acceptance props up confidence and personal comfort can transform into style. Your confidence is your style.