Breaking The Taboo- Sex During Pregnancy
There is no right way or wrong way to motherhood, no correct path that has to be followed. Pregnancy brings in a time when you will be completely engulfed in the love of your child and the amount of love that you can hold. It is mind-blowing.
Maybe you are thinking, phew! Is this even a topic to talk about? Too bold, obnoxious. True, because I want to talk about sexuality both during and after pregnancy. I have noticed that sex is often a kind of an awkward subject for women. But why is that? We all know how people get pregnant, so why can’t we talk about it? Why do taboo rules adhere to the process of growing up as a mother? Isn’t this supposed to be one of the wonderful gifts of nature?
Motherhood Is A Divine, Sacred Calling.
To continue on the subject of sexuality, one might think about problems that can arise. The most common problems during pregnancy are generally a belly which is in the way, back pain or other pain in the body. But, a lot of problems is just in our minds. Our minds create a wall of inhibitions, feeling unattractive or feeling scared of hurting the baby. And sometimes, with so many changes taking place in their bodies and mind, women are allowed to feel unattractive or worry that their partners don’t find them as attractive as they did before. But, it is totally fine.
Trust me, you are most beautiful during your pregnancy. The joy of the foetus growing inside your body glows out your serotonin and dopamine. However, mood swings may take a toll on you, know that-
It’s okay to be you. It’s ok to have sex during pregnancy! It is okay to feel sexy. Love at the time of pregnancy is normal. Fear can choose some other timeline. With your partner, you are in the world’s safest place.
You can try different positions and find what works and feels best for you at different stages of your pregnancy. Your developing baby is protected by the amniotic fluid in your uterus, as well as by the strong muscles of the uterus itself. Sexual activity won’t affect your baby, as long as you don’t have complications such as preterm labour or placenta problems.
There are only some specific circumstances when it’s not smart to have sex or an orgasm, for example- If you’re experiencing blood loss or suffer from severe varicose veins. It’s also not a good idea when your water breaks, as it could threaten premature birth, or when the placenta is located before the exit of the uterus.
Finally! When Your baby is there. What happens then? My advice here would be to take the time your body needs to heal! It has just accomplished an incredible thing and will need to recover. The first time you have sex after giving birth can be exciting. One should start carefully, take time and consider using lubricant to make things easier.
Of course, if one experiences regular or intense pain during sex at any point of pregnancy or after childbirth, an appointment to talk to your midwife or doctor is mandatory. They will be able to help you, give you tips and hopefully put your mind at ease.
Also, what if you don’t feel like making out love?
That’s OK. There’s more to intimacy than sex.