With everything going on in the lives of the average couple, it’s easy to forget the small gestures that keep a relationship ticking. What most couples don’t realize, though, is that it doesn’t take much to help your partner feel more valued every day.
So here are some tips on improving your relationship this year. To some, these may sound like stating the obvious, but admit it, sometimes we tend to neglect the obvious.
Be kind and gentle to yourself.
When things aren’t working out the way you’d like, it’s easy to judge yourself. Instead, be kind and gentle. Know that every relationship — healthy and unhealthy — serves a purpose. Each relationship is there for you to learn and grow from. The most important thing is how you respond to what happens to you.
Stop blaming or criticising each other
There could be arguments, but always remember that it takes two to tango. So don’t let ego and its paraphernalia get in the way of a peaceful resolution of issues where no side gets an upper hand.
Don’t change yourselves
You should stop trying to change each other. Accept each other the way you are. Instead change your attitude if it’s proving to be a hindrance to strengthening your relationship.
Get clear on what you want.
Determine the top five to seven things that are most important for you to have in your ideal partner and relationship. Let’s say you want a partner who is loyal, trustworthy, affectionate, a good communicator, intelligent and active. And let’s say you want to be in a relationship that is meaningful, flows with ease, is honest, supportive and respectful. Being clear on what you want makes it easier to stay on track instead of getting sidetracked by the wrong men and relationships.
Trust in the process and outcome.
It’s human nature to want to feel in control of things, including love. When you find yourself trying to control, you will feel stressed, worried, concerned and unable to relax. When you are clear and focused on what you want, choosing in favor of those things and trusting in the process and outcome becomes easier. If you can truly understand that everything is happening for your greater good, you will be able to relax more easily and trust in what is meant to be.