By Suman Bajpai
You’ve been married for 15 years, but your last intimate conversation with your husband was seven years ago. Now, you and your spouse talk more about children and day-to-day problems rather than your own emotions. You spend more time arguing over money and spending than reliving your favourite memories. The relationship experts claim that communication is woven through every aspect of a relationship. It reflects how each person in a relationship feels about the other.
Maybe, it feels like you have known your mate forever and you think he can interpret every expression on your face and read your mind. Instead of assuming, it’s important to communicate your needs instead of waiting for your partner to guess them. Communicate clearly to get rid of any assumptions. This is a perfect way to improve communication in your relationship.
Creates a sense of intimacy
Playful communication is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships exciting, fresh and vital. Laughter and play enrich your interactions and give your relationship that extra zing that keeps them interesting, light and enjoyable. This shared pleasure creates a sense of intimacy and connection that are essential for lasting relationship.
Humour and playfulness can strengthen relationship—but only when both people are in on the joke. When playfulness is one-sided rather than mutual, it undermines trust and goodwill and damages the relationship.
When conflict and disagreement throw a wrench in your relationship, humour and playfulness can help lighten things up and restore a sense of connection. Used skilfully and respectfully, playful humour can turn conflict into an opportunity for shared fun and intimacy. It allows you to get your point across without getting the other person’s defences up or hurting their feelings.
A good laugh relieves tension
Laughter has a powerful effect on your health and well-being. A good laugh relieves tension and stress, elevates mood, enhances creativity and problem-solving ability, and provides a quick
energy boost. The next time an argument gets heated, instead of yelling or turning a cold shoulder, try to find some humour in the situation to help improve communication.
Laughter brings people together. Mutual laughter and play are an essential component of strong, healthy relationship. By making a conscious effort to incorporate more humour and play into your daily interactions, you can improve the quality of your love relationship.
Laughter opens us up, freeing us to express what we truly feel and allowing our deep, genuine emotions to rise to the surface. When you laugh with your spouse, a positive bond is created. This bond acts as a strong shield against stress, disagreements, and disappointment. And laughter really is contagious—just hearing laughter primes your brain to smile and join in on the fun.
Laughter relieves fatigue and relaxes your body, while also recharging your batteries and helping you accomplish more. A sense of humour is the key to resilience. It helps you take hardships in your stride, whether disappointment, and bounce back from adversity and loss.
Of all the elements that contribute to the warm atmosphere of a good relationship, there is one that seldom gets translated into advice or even therapy. Yet it is something that everyone desires and most people would like more of laughter. The irony is that most of the laughs married couples get from TV laugh tracks, not from each other. They don’t emanate from the relationship.
Talk through touch
Communication involves more than words. One important way to communicate is through touch because nonverbal cues are critical to communication. These cues include gestures like eye contact, touching your partner and even leaning forward when your partner is talking. Paying attention to nonverbal cues your partner is sending, or making an effort to send more nonverbal cues yourself, is one way to improve communication in your relationship. Nonverbal cues also help couples build trust and strengthen bonds.
Express your feelings in a clear way. Use more than two or three words to explain to your partner how you feel. If you tell your partner you are sad, explain the degree of sadness you are feeling to avoid miscommunication.
Laughter and playfulness also come with numerous physical and mental health benefits. Laughter triggers a host of healthy changes in your brain and body. The mental health benefits of laughter are tied to the physical benefits. When your body is relaxed and energised, you are better able to think and communicate clearly. This helps you keep your own emotions in check, relate in a positive way to others, and resolve conflict.
Laughter is particularly a powerful antidote to depression and anxiety. Having a sense of humour offsets depression and anxiety which makes the relationship tension-free.
Follow these tips
Set aside three hours each month for a fun, playful date – again this is more likely to happen if it is the same time each month, and if it is an easy to remember time – going for the first whatever day is best. This date is a sacred commitment – just like a first date, and absolutely nothing takes precedence over it! You can go out for a meal or watch a movie. Take a walk together in your neighbourhood, along a nature trail, by the river or the ocean.
Stay home and play cards, a board game. Go to an art gallery, museum, play or concert.
Playing doesn’t have to cost much money and play can be indoors, outdoors, serious, silly, sports, and hobbies, intellectual, mildly competitive, romantic, sexual, spiritual, or seasonal. Get in the car and go for a long drive.
Laughter is the closest distance between two people.