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“I Loved Him But He Disrespected Me For 3 Years” Rashami Desai On Divorce With Nandish Sandu

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June 10, 2017

Tapasya and Veer, aka Rashmi Desai and Nandish, got close to one another on the sets of Utaran. They were both co-stars on this show and found love and solace in each others company. The love blossomed between the two and they finally decided to take their relationship to another level. The couple got married in 2012 and enjoyed their initial stage to the fullest. But soon trouble loomed in their paradise and news of fights between the couple started doing rounds.

They parted ways after appearing on Nach Baliye the dance reality show. The news of their divorce became big time rumours. All the blame of the divorce was put on Rashmi and now she has finally spoken up about her divorce.

On she being blamed for the split:

“You know there’s a website called India Forums. They’ve been handling Nandish’s PR and I don’t have a problem but they’ve been giving one-sided stories from Nandish’s end. I’ve never felt the need to explain myself or my relationship with anyone – but there are all sorts of rumours that pinpoint me and claim that  is completely innocent. In a marriage, I know it is two people’s responsibility, but my relationship was always abusive. India Forums is making it super ugly. They’re only printing one-sided articles about him giving his 100%, when it’s just not true. What are you trying to prove? It’s false information.”

“We’ve had problems for three years now. Why did I leave the house? I’ve never spoken about this – but mujhe humesha ghar se nikala jaataa! If he gave his 100% yeh cheezein hoti hi nahi na.”

On being an over-possessive wife:

“I’ve never had a problem with any of his female friends. I’ve never doubted him regarding even one of them. And if I have, I’ve asked him directly. I’ve never spoken about this to people. And somehow suddenly all the problems are in me.”

“I gave the relationship my 100%, then why should things be portrayed in this light? How will I be insecure? I’m always busy with work and travelling. I don’t have the time.”

On Nandish dating a model:

“I have no idea if he’s dating someone or not. But even if he is in a relationship, I don’t have a problem. I wish him luck. He’s free to lead his life the way he wants to. My best wishes are always there.”

“I’ve never had the need to ask him if any rumour about him is true, neither do I need to know. But to point fingers at me and claiming you did everything to save it – I’m sorry, my relationship was always abusive! I’ve not been staying with him for more than 3 years now, and there are so many things I could’ve revealed about him if I wanted to.”

On how she was abused:

“I don’t want to say anything in particular, but jo samajhne wale hain woh samajh jaenge.”

On why she did Nach Baliye:

“I thought with Nach Baliye, maybe God has given us one more chance. But right after the show, again another incident happened, that’s when I decided for sure that I want to come out of the relationship. I wasn’t happy, he wasn’t happy.  I will be talking about these incidents if I’m bullied more. I will talk about it on a larger scale.”

On their current equation:

“We aren’t talking at all. On the third day on Nach Baliye, something happened between us that we stopped talking. I’ve called him about 2-3 times since then to convey the fact that I want out of this relationship. I sent him a notice two years ago, which he kept avoiding. Two years later, his lawyers got in touch to say that he is ready for a mutual separation. I respected that and since then, our lawyers have been talking. We have no communication.”

On why she kept going back to Nandish:

“I genuinely loved him. And I genuinely believe that a relationship needs to be built. And if you can’t continue, then it’s important to end it on a beautiful note. And the world is very small. Everyone crosses paths all the time. I’ve never seen things like this happening in my household. Women are never insulted. But I was disrespected for over 3 years and after a point, I knew this was just not happening. I thought after this, tum apne raaste jaao, main apne. But something else was only happening is why I decided to speak up.”

On support from family and close friends:

“My family is very disturbed. I come from a very conservative family so when I opened up to my mother, it was very difficult for everyone. But she told me that whatever my decision is, she’ll accept it and respect it. Only my closest friends knew the kind of pain I was in. And they’re still with me. And everyone told me that I should talk about the issues too. But I was of the belief that bolne ki liye even I can say so many things, but what will we achieve from that? But today I realized that I should talk about everything and the shit I’ve gone through.”

On how she is feeling now:

“How will I be doing? Maine bohot khushi se shaadi ki thhi rasmo-riwaaj ke sath ki thhi. And after that if things don’t work out, it’s very painful. I don’t know right now. I can’t trust anyone. I have seen horrible things.  I have everything today – a good house, a family… but everything hurts. I really loved him and I wanted to come out in a beautiful way, but he’s made it very ugly. I have seen very good times with him – but I’ve also seen very very bad times.”