Tell-Tale Signs That You Are In A One-sided Relationship!
A healthy relationship is always two-sided. No matter what is important to the two of you in a relationship, it has to come from both partners. It is given and taken; it is reciprocity. It is not difficult to recognize when you are in a one-sided relationship, because it will make you feel alone even when you are with the person, and when that happens, it is easy to brush it off as normal when it most certainly isn’t.
It can be a bit harder to realize it if you are someone who loves selflessly without expecting anything in return. Here are some signs that you are giving a lot more than you are getting back.
They are rarely there for you:
A relationship will come with the responsibility of being there for your partner because you care. Yes, at times it may not be possible to be there, but if you are in a one-sided relationship, you will find yourself leaving everything to be there for your partner when they need you, but they will always be busy with something else when you need them.
You always find yourself putting more effort into the relationship:
If you are the one always initiating plans, doing more work in the relationship, trying to sort things out, trying to adjust your schedule according to them, while they let you do all of that without wanting to lift a finger, then be sure that it is a one-sided relationship.
You make excuses for their behavior:
This is a classic case of denial. When they do not meet even your most basic expectations, you end up making excuses on their behalf. You make assumptions that make you feel better about them and your relationship because you do not want to face the reality of being left alone.
You are the one always apologizing:
No matter who is in the wrong during any fights or disagreements, you are the one who is saying sorry by the end of it. Even if it is their fault, they will not apologize and they are okay with or without your presence. You hurry to apologize to them just because you need them in your life.
You always feel unsure of their feelings:
You can never tell for sure what mood they might be in, or what exactly they feel about you. You feel insecure about the relationship and are constantly tiptoeing around them when it comes to discussing any sensitive topics. This is a clear case of a one-sided relationship.
You are not their priority:
If your partner has a social calendar that does not feature you anywhere near the top, you might be in a one-sided relationship. Yes, there will be important things often, such as work or any emergencies, or even some me-time. But if your partner is simply not making time for you while always being out with friends or family, you are not that important to your partner.
The communication is lacking:
A healthy relationship will involve a good amount of communication about everything – the good, the bad, and the ugly. If you are not able to express yourself to your partner due to fear or just because you think they will not understand you or take it in the wrong way, there is a serious problem in the relationship. Even worse, if your partner cannot make time for you to talk about anything important to you, you might be in a one-sided relationship.
If you recognize any of these patterns in your relationship, you might need to take a good look at the relationship and decide if the relationship is worth it. A one-sided relationship is never healthy, so you might need to step away if need be.