Samriti Dhatwalia
– by Purnima Atul Goyal
Table top sex is most prevalent among the generation between 1980 and 2000, also known as Millennials or Generation Y. Our studies show that younger generations associate it with power and excitement. This method, practiced purely for recreation, not for procreation, is considered a symbol of mutual understanding and dedication by young people. This method of sex is most suitable for young couples living in unfamiliar cities, away from family and relatives. Mohini, a newly married woman working in the IT sector, says that this place is ideal for quick sex. Richa believes that table top sex is popular because there is no hassle of getting clothes dirty or arranging them later. Mohit associates it with climax, while Kavita believes this is a misconception stemming from the sensual scenes in films.
Table top sex scenes are nothing new in films. Sex scenes have been shown in cinema since the 1930s. Ecstasy, released in 1933, was the first documentary to depict sex scenes on screen. Scenes of sex began to increase in the 1960s and 1970s. Scenes depicting sex at the dining or kitchen table became popular in the 1980s and 1990s, when sex began to be associated with mystery, guilt, and fear. During this period, table sex was presented as a symbol of love, excitement, and climax.
There are numerous examples of Hollywood glorifying table sex, the most prominent being “The Postman Always Rings Twice,” in which Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange have an arousing scene at the kitchen table. Flour spilled, both uncontrollable—this scene is considered the most relatable and intimate. This scene was used to depict the film’s central theme—sexual transgression.
Another representative scene is considered to be the impromptu sex between Michael Douglas and Glenn Close near the kitchen sink and in the table area in “Fatal Seduction,” released in 1987. This is the opening hot scene of the film which sets the story of the entire film.
The third representative film in this series is called “Don’t Worry Darling.” Harry Styles and Florence Pugh engage in oral sex on a dining table. This scene of oral satisfaction was very popular with audiences at the time. The film uses table sex to depict a grotesque arousal. In “A History of Violence,” released in 2005, the scene of Viggo Mortensen and Maria Bello initiating lovemaking on the stairs and then culminating on a table also aroused audiences. It depicted table sex as rough sex. Table-top scenes are rare in Bollywood due to strict censorship. Most sex scenes are filmed on a bed, sand, or in the rain.
According to sex expert Dr. Ankit, table sex is becoming a popular and enjoyable way to spice up their sex lives in India. People prefer it to spice up their sex lives because it is quite different from routine bedroom sex. It is quick and creates additional excitement. It saves time and opens up the possibility of many new positions.
Benefits of having sex on a table
It creates novelty and excitement
Having sex on a bed every time can get boring. Having sex on a kitchen table adds excitement, just like in the movies. It keeps the relationship fresh. When it comes to creative sex positions away from your bed, a table tops the list. Everyone has at least one table worthy of it. There are endless ways to do table sex in various ways and with new techniques. You can do it standing, leaning against a table, sitting, and of course, lying down.
Table sex provides better access and stimulation
The height of the table makes standing positions easier. For the woman, it makes clitoral stimulation easier, as her hands are free. You can also use a vibrator. Oral sex also provides more pleasure to the receiver and the one giving sex does not have to kneel, which prevents pain or friction in the knees.
It ensures deep penetration and control
Table sex is not only a great way to keep intimacy with your partner fun and sexy, but it also allows for deeper penetration in missionary and doggy styles, says sex and relationship expert Mohani. The standing partner helps with thrusting, while the lying partner can determine direction and depth.
Easily clean up sex messes
Bed sheets get dirty, but the table just needs to be wiped. Food items in the kitchen, like whipped cream, can also be easily used for fun. Know that you don’t need a hard table for sex, but women love it because it’s waterproof, so you can thoroughly lubricate yourself and ejaculate without hesitation, knowing that cleanup will be easy.
Most Tables: Idea for Standing Sex
Most tables (kitchen counters or dining tables) are waist-high, which is ideal for standing sex. This reduces fatigue. Allow adequate time for standing oral sex. Baker says that by sitting on the edge of the table, with your legs raised, your partner can easily come on top of you without straining your neck. Your partner can make it even hotter by spreading your legs and holding them while coming on top of you. Hall explains that this position reduces the chance of the table breaking.
According to Razia, a sex coach and massage center worker, this is a great sex platform. It offers novelty and uniqueness without upending traditional sex principles. When stripping in a sexy way, you simply lean over the table or place some of your weight on it and initiate penetration or oral sex. It’s very easy and quick. You can start anytime, whether while waiting for a shower or just before leaving the office.
It’s perfect for outdoor sex
You can have great and easy sex on a low, sturdy coffee table, or even in a more open space like a pool table. Sex on a pool table, in a natural environment, is very exciting and healthy. It has railings on the edge to prevent you from falling. Definitely, lay a blanket or towel down first so you don’t have to clean up any stains.
Have one partner stand under the table, and the other lie down with their back to the edge. Katie Buckleitner Hall, author of “The Dirty Dangle,” says you can easily lift your legs or ask your partner to lift them for deeper penetration, and this is also a great position for clitoral stimulation. Move your buttocks to the edge of the table and cross your legs in an X in the air while your partner penetrates you, suggests Mohani, a PhD in Indian erotica and a sex and relationship counselor in Noida, who practices under the name “Adam & Eve.” She says ladies should cross their legs, as the extra friction can stimulate their clit even more.
“Sex on a table” isn’t just about missionary sex on a hard tabletop instead of a mattress. Razia says leaning on a table or raising one or both legs can provide better access. It’s much easier to have sex with your partner tied up or bound. You can have your partner hold your wrists from behind, or even tie them together with cuffs or a necktie.
A table can be used as a gentle way to have sex with your partner’s genitals facing you. Your partner lies on their back on the table, their head resting on the edge. Then, you stand over them so they can perform oral sex on you while you stand. This position is said to be inspired by the movie Spider-Man, in which Spider-Man kisses his girlfriend while hanging upside down on a string.
Razia says, “Having sex in new places can require some compromise. If you’re not enjoying it, tell your partner you want to keep it hot and heavy. You can disguise your desire with double meaning. Instead of saying, “My butt hitting this hard surface is arousing,” you can also say you’d like to lean back and be punished. Non-verbal cues can also work, such as using kisses or touch to get into a comfortable position. She adds, “When you’re clear about what you want, it’s easier for your partner to please you.”
Some Popular Positions
Tabletop/Modified Missionary: One partner lies on the edge of a table, hips hanging out, while the other stands and enters.
Seated Oral: One partner sits on the edge of a table, the other kneels and gives oral.
Doggy Style: One partner leans on the table for support, while the other enters from behind.
Reverse cowgirl: sitting on the table in front of you or facing the opposite side.
For table sex, you need a table that is sturdy and able to withstand shocks and weight. According to sexologist Dr. Manjulika, if you’re concerned about the table’s strength, try a position where both of your feet are on the floor. This will give you peace of mind and keep you safe. Compromising the table’s strength can lead to accidents. If you feel comfortable, use a pillow or cushion. Always consider your partner’s consent and safety.